First thing to remember is this… It’s in our nature to resist change. It really is. The uncertainty that comes with the change is often uncomfortable and we love our creature comforts of always feeling like we know what’s next.
Our survival instincts perceive that a change as a threat.
Key words here are 'perceive' & ’threat'. I doesn’t matter if the threat is real or not, but essentially… our brains can’t see past what it can’t see.Read more...
There are times in our lives when we feel like everything is falling apart.
Our back is against the wall and there is no way out.
We do our best, we know when we are weak that he is strong, and we trust that the Lord is faithful.
But that doesn't make the trials go away.
That doesn't make the fear disappear.
And it definitely doesn't make it any easier.
We choose to believe, we choose joy, we choose comfort in knowing that God is still in control....but some days it's hard to do any of those things. Some days it's hard to have faith in the things unseen.
On those days it is SO nice to have friends in your life…kind of like Moses needed Aaron and Hur.
Moses' strength grew weary, but he was blessed with Aaron and Hur who held up his arms, so that his hands were steady until the going down of the sun. -Exodus 17:12.
Do you understand what that means?
Moses had a job to do.
God called him to lead their people out of bondage…but he couldn’t do it alone.
As a wife and mom, it’s super important to understand that we have got to surround ourselves with people who will uplift us when we are struggling….with people who are rooted in Christ so that when we are weak, they can remind us that we can lean on God, for he is strong.
Think of it as borrowed faith.
Borrowed faith is necessary when we are exhausted, weary, tired of fighting and believing. Because sometimes it's way easier to say forget it, and throw in the towel.
On those days, we really need others to put a stone under us so that we can sit.
We need people to hold onto our arms when we can't hold them up any longer.
And maybe you are in a season where you don’t have any friend’s like that. (I’ve been there)
One thing that I know is true, that we attract the kind of people that we are ourselves. (let that sink in)
If we don’t have those kinds of friends in our circle, why don’t we? ‘
It might be time do some self inventory and ask some very real questions about who we are in Christ and what kind of fruit we are bearing as a testament of what he has done in us.
I know this is something you’ve heard before…but this time, this time you might just need to lean in and take action.
And in the meantime, know that I am praying for you. If you don't have anyone that you can borrow faith from in your life, always trust that you can borrow mine.
Because believe me when I say, I know how it is to feel completely alone in the midst of a storm.
"Let the thunder be my comfort
Let the lightning be my guide
Let the waves that rise around me
Hold me gently through the night
For the winds that seem against me
Push me right into Your arms
Teach me how to sleep in the storm"
America has a funny relationship with its history.
For the last couple of weeks, I have been asked how we’re feeling.
It’s a tough question to answer, but I want to be fully transparent with all of you.
We are sick with emotion. Overwhelmed, disgusted, angry, scared, anxious, confused, exhausted, traumatized, and mentally drained.
And the toughest part about all of this is that these feelings are essentially on repeat because racial injustice has always been a part of our lives.
This time it's different....this time it's people who we consider friends that are posting, commenting and sharing content amongst themselves- mocking, and ridiculing the black community.
Everyday is a new gut punch.
But not to worry, I am fully aware of who the real enemy is. I am very much awake.
And so I wonder...what has been their experiences...to allow this conclusion.
Because these are not bad people.
These are people who would give anyone their last without hesitation.
I work with them.
Our children play together.
So how are they ok with these memes...essentially mocking who I am?
And so we talk, and have the uncomfortable conversations...and I hear their experiences.
& then we both realize...they have no idea.
Racism and white supremacy is so systematically & deeply engraved into this country that people have become numb to it.
Racist jokes are normalized...people are made to feel indifferent about them.
This goes both ways.
We laugh it off and suppress it, otherwise it's uncomfortable.
How else is it so easy for society to understand why a child would shoot up a school after 4 months of bullying, but can't understand why an entire group of people would feel so much pain after 400 years of systematic oppression?
We are all a product of our surroundings, and our surroundings have been flawed....for generations.
This nation must first learn from the mistakes of our history if we are ever to heal and have peace.
But first, we've got to have the uncomfortable conversations with each other.
If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out to me. Would love to hear from you.
I want to have the conversation with you, hear your experience, and also share mine.
With love and peace,
When I was a first time mom, 5 years ago, my intuition was not settled with the answers I received in regards to my infant’s health.
Some of you already know our story but for those of you who don’t, I’ll keep it short today, and you can always join our private Facebook group and catch the short video I made about the whole thing.
In a nut shell, we were told that our son was having an allergic reaction to something - no one could tell us what- and that he was to be treated for respiratory infections with antibiotics and steroids.
I was on my way to pharmacy school at the time, and was very much aware of the side effects and symptoms of antibiotic overuse…. I refused to go that route.
Even though I was afraid and I felt lost…I was still determined to find a better way.
Luckily for me, the pharmacist that I was working with was very much involved in learning about natural + holistic living.
He knew his stuff and he was the catalyst that showed me it was ok to question everything the narrative and to listen to my mama’s intuition.
He lead me to the right resources and to the right people so that I could learn more.
It was because of him that I was prompted to reach out to a naturopathic doctor to get the ball rolling on alternative treatments for our son.
I am in tears just typing this because I never got the chance to tell him thank you -he passed away in 2017 and I never had the chance to say goodbye.
I never had the chance to say thank you.
He will never know the positive impact that he had on me and my family’s life.
He is a huge part of why I have the confidence and the courage to pursue living on my own terms.
Today, I am confident in my abilities to advocate for my family’s health and wellness instead of putting my full trust in pharmaceuticals and mainstream healthcare.
And please hear the sincerity in my heart when I say that I truly do appreciate mainstream healthcare when necessary- but in our society, it's often the first and only thing we are given as an option.
I am also saying that there are other options that have been proven to be safer and often times work better.
You may feel different and that’s ok - maybe I’m not the girl for you.
I believe we can disagree and still remain unified in the fact that we just want our family’s to be healthy.
At the end of the day, I am very thankful for modern day medicine when necessary but I will always opt for the ‘leaves of the trees first’.
If any of this resonates with you, feel free to come say hi in Holistic Mama Collective where we talk about all kinds of natural ways to support a healthy lifestyle.
See you in the group.