Even though the temperatures dropped below 40 degrees, our home stayed comfortable and that makes my mama heart happy.
We haven’t used our central heat in our home in over 5 years —yep!
The reason why is because in the past, my entire family would always get sick with some type of upper respiratory infection when we turned it on.Read more...
Working from home - & ultimately being your own boss - requires a certain level of discipline and purpose behind it.
It’s not easy to keep showing up for yourself when experiencing a hard day…you've got to build a solid reason to keep you going.
It’s easier to give up and quit when you don’t have one of who things….
One - either someone in your face telling you that you can’t quit (typical 9to 5)
OR you’ve got a heart-centered reason why you refuse to quit.
I’ve got my hands on the latter and it feels so good to have business that not only provide an additional, steady stream of residual income, but also provides a way for me to give back and serve my audience!Read more...
- Are we mentally and physically exhausted all the time, and not sure why?
- Is our sex drive all but gone, and no one can explain why?
- Are we feeding our families junk food and then expecting good health to magically appear?
- Are our emotions stable or do we allow our food triggers to lead us?
- Are we being a good example to our families as we are intentional about moving our bodies daily?
- Are we allowing endocrine disrupting toxins into our home and our bodies - affecting our moods, our sex drives, our emotional stability?
- What is our attitude towards those around us who are healthy and do choose to eat differently than most?
One of my favorite things to do with my husband since becoming parents is attend marriage and family conferences together. Not only do marriage and family conferences make great date nights, we always walk away knowing more about ourselves, our marriage, and our parenting styles than when we first came.
Both my husband and I come from a very old school way of raising children and it hasn’t been easy for us to arrive on the same page when it comes to discipline for our boys; but attending conference offers us the time and space to not only learn how to be better parents, but it’s a great way to get away for some alone time.
At the last conference we attended, one of the speakers gave an opening message that I have since stuck on a post-it note to my office wall. ‘Connect before you correct.’
In a nut shell, It simply means that it’s important to keep the relationship with your children open and strong in order for the discipline and correction to be effective.
This really stood out to me because when I was growing up, most adults around me didn’t really know how to connect to children emotionally. Our obvious and basic needs were always met, but there was always a lack of emotional bonding and communicational skills that I didn’t fully understand until I myself was became a mom.
And to preface this story even more, weeks leading up to this conference, we had been recently having an increasingly hard time with our then 4 year old son.
I’ll dive deeper into what some of those hards days looked like specifically and what we did to help us understand him which inevitably helped up to build a stronger family bond.
Take it from me, I know what it looks and feels like to be in a family where adults don’t necessarily know how to love children in a way that children can understand.
I know what it feels like to hear, ‘I don’t like you’, from adults in my life, based on the mistakes I had made as a child.
I know what it feels like to be told, ‘I will like you better when you learn to listen.’
Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages of Children says, ‘Most parents love their children dearly and also want their children to feel loved, but very few know how to adequately convey that feeling.'
For now I will leave you with something important that I learned.
One of the best way that I’ve found that work very well in developing and keeping a healthy relationship with your children is by finding out what your child’s specific love language is.
Just like you would learn what your spouse’s love language is, you child needs to be loved in his own way too.
And I’ll take it even further and say children also need to be loved according to their brain development level. We’ll talk more about that later so stay tuned for Friday’s Blog post so if this resonates with you, feel free to sign up for updates here.
Until then, it gives me so much joy to be able to connect with all of you and hear your unique stories. You can always contact me here or hop over to our private FB group where we talk about this and more.
Til next time.
America has a funny relationship with its history.
For the last couple of weeks, I have been asked how we’re feeling.
It’s a tough question to answer, but I want to be fully transparent with all of you.
We are sick with emotion. Overwhelmed, disgusted, angry, scared, anxious, confused, exhausted, traumatized, and mentally drained.
And the toughest part about all of this is that these feelings are essentially on repeat because racial injustice has always been a part of our lives.
This time it's different....this time it's people who we consider friends that are posting, commenting and sharing content amongst themselves- mocking, and ridiculing the black community.
Everyday is a new gut punch.
But not to worry, I am fully aware of who the real enemy is. I am very much awake.
And so I wonder...what has been their experiences...to allow this conclusion.
Because these are not bad people.
These are people who would give anyone their last without hesitation.
I work with them.
Our children play together.
So how are they ok with these memes...essentially mocking who I am?
And so we talk, and have the uncomfortable conversations...and I hear their experiences.
& then we both realize...they have no idea.
Racism and white supremacy is so systematically & deeply engraved into this country that people have become numb to it.
Racist jokes are normalized...people are made to feel indifferent about them.
This goes both ways.
We laugh it off and suppress it, otherwise it's uncomfortable.
How else is it so easy for society to understand why a child would shoot up a school after 4 months of bullying, but can't understand why an entire group of people would feel so much pain after 400 years of systematic oppression?
We are all a product of our surroundings, and our surroundings have been flawed....for generations.
This nation must first learn from the mistakes of our history if we are ever to heal and have peace.
But first, we've got to have the uncomfortable conversations with each other.
If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out to me. Would love to hear from you.
I want to have the conversation with you, hear your experience, and also share mine.
With love and peace,
When I was a first time mom, 5 years ago, my intuition was not settled with the answers I received in regards to my infant’s health.
Some of you already know our story but for those of you who don’t, I’ll keep it short today, and you can always join our private Facebook group and catch the short video I made about the whole thing.
In a nut shell, we were told that our son was having an allergic reaction to something - no one could tell us what- and that he was to be treated for respiratory infections with antibiotics and steroids.
I was on my way to pharmacy school at the time, and was very much aware of the side effects and symptoms of antibiotic overuse…. I refused to go that route.
Even though I was afraid and I felt lost…I was still determined to find a better way.
Luckily for me, the pharmacist that I was working with was very much involved in learning about natural + holistic living.
He knew his stuff and he was the catalyst that showed me it was ok to question everything the narrative and to listen to my mama’s intuition.
He lead me to the right resources and to the right people so that I could learn more.
It was because of him that I was prompted to reach out to a naturopathic doctor to get the ball rolling on alternative treatments for our son.
I am in tears just typing this because I never got the chance to tell him thank you -he passed away in 2017 and I never had the chance to say goodbye.
I never had the chance to say thank you.
He will never know the positive impact that he had on me and my family’s life.
He is a huge part of why I have the confidence and the courage to pursue living on my own terms.
Today, I am confident in my abilities to advocate for my family’s health and wellness instead of putting my full trust in pharmaceuticals and mainstream healthcare.
And please hear the sincerity in my heart when I say that I truly do appreciate mainstream healthcare when necessary- but in our society, it's often the first and only thing we are given as an option.
I am also saying that there are other options that have been proven to be safer and often times work better.
You may feel different and that’s ok - maybe I’m not the girl for you.
I believe we can disagree and still remain unified in the fact that we just want our family’s to be healthy.
At the end of the day, I am very thankful for modern day medicine when necessary but I will always opt for the ‘leaves of the trees first’.
If any of this resonates with you, feel free to come say hi in Holistic Mama Collective where we talk about all kinds of natural ways to support a healthy lifestyle.
See you in the group.
How many of you have ever heard of Dave Ramsey?
Do you follow his advice on financial peace?
I was introduced to him in college, and even though I didn’t follow his 7 baby steps then, I was drawn to his way of thinking in regards to being in debt.
As a married couple, we were reintroduced to Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University class 2 years ago, and it really helped us get on the same page with our finances.
Finances had been a point of contention up until then.
Today I want to share some encouragement with you.
I recently read a blog post by Dave Ramsey who said, 'Fifty percent of Americans have less than one month of their income saved for a rainy day (emergencies).
Sure, that might not sound too positive. But guess what? We’re positive it’s going to rain!'
With all of the chaos in the world today maybe you're not in that 50%… but some of you are.
If you've lost your job and don't have emergency cash on hand, chances are you will have to fall back on credit cards to keep yourself afloat.
And with nearly half of American households not saving any of their money, I'm sure this has been a very difficult time for many.
My heart goes out to those who were like me and were never taught how to have a healthy relationship with money… but it doesn’t have to stay that way. Let this be your wake up call.
Dave's Financial Peace University course is usually $100, but he just announced on his podcast that you can take the course for free.
Just go to the following website.
www.daveramsey.com/store/hope & register to be able to take the full course. You'll have free access for 14 days so grab your spouse and binge watch this instead of Netflix.
You’ll receive all nine lessons of Financial Peace and the EveryDollar Plus budgeting app—for free for 2 weeks!
If you’ve been waiting for a sign to know if this proven plan works, here’s your sign.
It worked for me and my family and we are still following Dave’s Steps as we teach them to our kids.
I know you’re sitting at home binge watching Netflix anyway. So why not take this time to watch from home and get started today!
When you’re in a crisis, facts are your friends. If you stay factual, you will see your way through this hard time.
I'm rooting for you!
You know what I am thankful for? The gift of another day!... and if you’re reading this, obviously you’ve been blessed with that gift too! So let’s create hope, love and life where you live.
Things have not always been this easy for you - but today is a new day.
Your home is your refuge.
The place where you can truly let loose, and be yourself.
The place where you get to cuddle up with your husband and your kids without the interference of the outside world.
Truly, this is where the magic begins every morning, and ends each day.
Let’s chat about 5 Ways to Make Your Home a Healing Sanctuary
#1 EMBRACE YOUR ROLE AS GATEKEEPER
First of all...I don’t know who made up the rule that having boundaries was impolite.
Boundaries are so important and serve as a point of safety and respect - not only to ourselves but to the people who interact with us.
You see, no matter what you've been led to believe in the past, I'm here to tell you --you get to call the shots in your own home. Period. Not your mom, your in-laws or sister so and so down the street - you and your husband.
And I understand if your personality makes you feel like boundaries might make you 'mean' person - that's something you'll have to personally develop yourself. But until then, if you feel like you needed someone to grant permission and release you from those previous beliefs, I’m granting that permission to you right now!
Your home is your castle, girlfriend. So why not make it a perfectly curated environment for you and your family to be happy.
#2 GIVE YOURSELF THE GIFT OF TIME
One of the biggest pieces of advice someone gave to me as a first time toddler mom was to get up before the kids do. Such a drastic change from ‘sleep when he sleeps’ rule with infants....but different seasons require different methods.
At first, I didn’t believe that something so seemingly small could create such monumental benefits - but it did in the most positive way.
There is something about waking up during the quiet of the morning, and getting ready for the day.
Use this time to enjoy a cup of coffee, reflect, practice prayerful mindfulness, pray, write in your journal, read a chapter or two from a book you love…anything that you can do FOR YOU and not for the family. This is your time. Enjoy.
And when the littles do wake up, you are ready.
Happy, cup full, and fully present.
#3 ISN’T IT LOVELY?
Even if the rest of your home looks like jumanji, there’s something about having that one focal point of order that helps you to feel like you’re winning.
Today, I want you to do think about one thing you can do to create a focal point of order.
Maybe it's your bed -take the extra 4 minutes to make it up in the mornings.
Do you have a plant corner? Turn it into a mini fairy garden.
For me, it’s my office space.
My husband and I both work from home - so it’s the one spot in our house that the boys aren’t allowed to play in... which means it stays kid free and easy is to clean.
The dopamine boost from having just one focal point of tidiness to retreat to is totally worth it.
#4 SET THE TONE FOR THE DAY YOU WANT
Turn on some music and invest in a diffuser with high quality oils.
Music has always been one of the best ways to lift the spirits and calm the mind.
Add in a few essential oil blends to caress your limbic system, and you’ve just curated the perfect atmosphere to meet the needs of your day.
#5 ADJUST YOUR LIGHTING
Create the ambiance you desire by adjusting the lighting in your home.
Pull the curtains back and let the bright sunshine overflow the room, or allow the the sheers to deflect some of the light and create low, warm lighting.
Either way, lights play a tremendous role in our feelings of comfort and safety - so don’t shy away and make it look just the way you like it!
Remember how I recommended high quality essential oils as part of your healing sanctuary?
It’s important to know that not all essential oils are created equal.
Most retailers are marketing ‘pure’ and ‘therapeutic’ grade oils....but I found out the hard way that just isn't true.
You may find an oil that smells nice, but that’s about all it will do.
When I started using essential oils 5 years ago, it was out of a medical necessity.
I needed an oil to help support my child's body- not simply make my home smell nice.
Through my trial and error I’ve found a source that I can trust.
It’s been an amazing 5 years, and this source has yet to disappoint.
Interested in learning more? Contact me.
We can see if this would be a good fit for you, so you can start making your home the healing space you so desperately need.