HOW TO KEEP YOUR HOME WARM WITHOUT CENTRAL HEAT SICKNESS

HOW TO KEEP YOUR HOME WARM WITHOUT CENTRAL HEAT SICKNESS
We just had our first real cold front blow through on the MS Gulf Coast & I was so thrilled that we didn’t have to use our central heat to stay warm. 

Even though the temperatures dropped below 40 degrees, our home stayed comfortable and that makes my mama heart happy. 


We haven’t used our central heat in our home in over 5 years —yep!  

The reason why is because in the past, my entire family would always get sick with some type of upper respiratory infection when we turned it on. 

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6 Things to Ask Yourself When Starting A Home Business Opportunity

Working from home - & ultimately being your own boss - requires a certain level of discipline and purpose behind it. 


It’s not easy to keep showing up for yourself when experiencing a hard day…you've got to build a solid reason to keep you going. 


It’s easier to give up and quit when you don’t have one of who things….

  • One - either someone in your face telling you that you can’t quit (typical 9to 5) 

  • OR you’ve got a heart-centered reason why you refuse to quit.

I’ve got my hands on the latter and it feels so good to have business that not only provide an additional, steady stream of residual income, but also provides a way for me to give back and serve my audience!

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HOLISTIC HEALTH IS BIBLICAL, & IT STARTS IN THE HOME

HOLISTIC HEALTH IS BIBLICAL, & IT STARTS IN THE HOME






Growing up, all I ever wanted to do was get a job, making good money, and travel the world helping people. Getting married and having children was never on the agenda.

The medical field appealed to me in that I knew I could do both as a traveling nurse or doctor.
Eventually, I decided on pharmacy school.

At age 19, I was blessed with a job at a local family owned and operated pharmacy as a technician.
They trained me on the job and treated me as one of their own kids.

I grew up in that pharmacy. From age 19 to 28 - they were a huge part of my life as I got engaged, got married, had my first and second baby- hindsight I know God placed me there for a specific purpose.

You see, they also taught me a great deal about the pharmaceutical industry that I would have never learned in school. I would have never learned any of it working for a big chain either.

While mainstream healthcare has it’s place of importance, they taught me that most of the people on medications in our country can easily remedy whatever their illnesses and disease are by way of nutrition and a healthy mindset.  

My pharmacist was an older gentlemen who had served in wars several years prior.

To know him, you would know that he always spoke his mind, no matter what you thought about him.

From day one, even in my interview, he would always tell me - ‘Make sure this is what you want to do. Because once you say yes, there’s no turning back.

I chocked it up to him just being a crazy old man, so I never gave it much thought.
I soon realized why he would say things like that.
To put a long story short, in 2015 my husband and I spent the first year of our sons life in hospitals as he was a very sick little boy and mainstream healthcare could not give us any relief or answers.

Thankfully, the Lord had already ordered my steps - and the pharmacist that I worked for was well-known in our community. He was able to connect me with a Naturopathic MD who introduced me to a whole new world of health and wellness.

It was then that I made the connection between our health and our lifestyles.
It was then that I learned that mainstream healthcare is not meant to heal us.

Something my pharmacist would always say was, ‘It’s that way by design, kiddo. If they healed us, they would go out of business & I wouldn’t have a job.’
To sum things up, our little boy got the help he needed through the help of that Naturopathic MD and I gained so much knowledge by working alongside people in the holistic health care community.

For the past 5 years, I’ve devoted time and money to learn as much as I can about natural health and wellness.
 It’s truly a remarkable thing to see how God has provided everything we need for our health, but we can’t see it.
After seeing everything that went on behind the scenes of mainstream pharmaceuticals and mainstream healthcare, The Lord placed a huge burden on my heart to discontinue my studies in this field.
I turned down my Ole Miss School of Pharmacy acceptance letter. It made absolutely no sense from the outside looking in, but I knew God had something else in store for me.

As people created in the image of God, it is our duty to remain faithful in every aspect of our Christian faith - body, mind, and spirit. (I Corinthians10:31)

In American culture, there exists a disconnect between Christians and holistic health.

Most people perceive food as originating at the grocery store; they see beans as coming from a can, and bananas as coming from the Chiquita lady in South America.

Very few people harvest their food and know what it’s like to garden.

We’ve grown accustomed to fast food and preventable lifestyle diseases are accepted as the norm.
We are used to people being sick and one of the reasons why is the business model of pharmaceutical industry - the industry I resigned and fled from 2.5 years ago.
Obesity is alarmingly at an all time high in our country.
In Mississippi, 25.4% of youth ages 10 to 17 have obesity, giving Mississippi a ranking of 1 out of 51.
Mental illness is at an all time high, and women all across nation also suffer from infertily and low sex drives.
But in Genesis 1, God creates humans and said “very good.”

Our culture has accepted poor health as the ‘norm’, when 99% of the time, it’s our own environment and choices that are part of the problem.
The American Cancer Society put out a study that showed us only 5% of cancers in the US are genetic. 5%!
That means the other 95% are caused by our environment and our lifestyle.

So what are we moms and wives doing about this?
We are the hearts of the home and many times, we are the ones who have the power to implement small changes for the good of our families.

I encourage you to be in prayer in this area.
  • Are we mentally and physically exhausted all the time, and not sure why?
  • Is our sex drive all but gone, and no one can explain why?
  • Are we feeding our families junk food and then expecting good health to magically appear?
  • Are our emotions stable or do we allow our food triggers to lead us?
  • Are we being a good example to our families as we are intentional about moving our bodies daily?
  • Are we allowing endocrine disrupting toxins into our home and our bodies - affecting our moods, our sex drives, our emotional stability?
  • What is our attitude towards those around us who are healthy and do choose to eat differently than most?

God created us as triune beings - our body, our spirit and and our mind are connected; if the body is undisciplined, so is the spirit.

I urge you to be thinking of all of this today. This is not a judgement call to anyone, but a call to action.
Moving forward, this will be part of the discussions here in Christian Wives and Moms.
As we continue to bring our whole selves into submission to the word of God, let’s not ignore our health.


1 Corinthians 10:31 - Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God. 
1 Corinthians 6:20 -For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's. 
Proverbs 3:9 -Honour the LORD with thy substance, and with the firstfruits of all thine increase: 
1 Samuel 2:30 -Wherefore the LORD God of Israel saith, I said indeed [that] thy house, and the house of thy father, should walk before me for ever: but now the LORD saith, Be it far from me; for them that honour me I will honour, and they that despise me shall be lightly esteemed. 
Deuteronomy 6:5 -And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might. 
2 Timothy 2:21- If a man therefore purge himself from these, he shall be a vessel unto honour, sanctified, and meet for the master's use, [and] prepared unto every good work. 
Romans 13:1-7- Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God. 
I Corinthians 3:16- Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and [that] the Spirit of God dwelleth in you?

For more on my personal holistic health journey, feel free to stop by Holistic Mama Collective.

xoxo
Marissa



HOW TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN WITHOUT LOSING THEIR HEARTS

HOW TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN WITHOUT LOSING THEIR HEARTS










One of my favorite things to do with my husband since becoming parents is attend marriage and family conferences together. Not only do marriage and family conferences make great date nights, we always walk away knowing more about ourselves, our marriage, and our parenting styles than when we first came. 


Both my husband and I come from a very old school way of raising children and it hasn’t been easy for us to arrive on the same page when it comes to discipline for our boys; but attending conference offers us the time and space to not only learn how to be better parents, but it’s a great way to get away for some alone time. 


At the last conference we attended, one of the speakers gave an opening message that I have since stuck on a post-it note to my office wall. ‘Connect before you correct.’ 


In a nut shell, It simply means that it’s important to keep the relationship with your children open and strong in order for the discipline and correction to be effective.

This really stood out to me because when I was growing up, most adults around me didn’t really know how to connect to children emotionally. Our obvious and basic needs were always met, but there was always a lack of emotional bonding and communicational skills that I didn’t fully understand until I myself was became a mom. 


And to preface this story even more, weeks leading up to this conference, we had been recently having an increasingly hard time with our then 4 year old son. 


I’ll dive deeper into what some of those hards days looked like specifically and what we did to help us understand him which inevitably helped up to build a stronger family bond. 


Take it from me,  I know what it looks and feels like to be in a family where adults don’t necessarily know how to love children in a way that children can understand. 


I know what it feels like to hear, ‘I don’t like you’, from adults in my life, based on the mistakes I had made as a child.


I know what it feels like to be told, ‘I will like you better when you learn to listen.’

Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages of Children says,Most parents love their children dearly and also want their children to feel loved, but very few know how to adequately convey that feeling.'


For now I will leave you with something important that I learned. 


One of the best way that I’ve found that work very well in developing and keeping a healthy relationship with your children is by finding out what your child’s specific love language is. 


Just like you would learn what your spouse’s love language is, you child needs to be loved in his own way too. 


And I’ll take it even further and say children also need to be loved according to their brain development level. We’ll talk more about that later so stay tuned for Friday’s Blog post so if this resonates with you, feel free to sign up for updates here.


Until then, it gives me so much joy to be able to connect with all of you and hear your unique stories. You can always contact me here or hop over to our private FB group where we talk about this and more. 


Til next time. 


Xoxo

Marissa





AMERICA HAS A FUNNY RELATIONSHIP WITH ITS HISTORY...& WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT IT

AMERICA HAS A FUNNY RELATIONSHIP WITH ITS HISTORY...& WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT IT

America has a funny relationship with its history. 


For the last couple of weeks, I have been asked how we’re feeling. 


It’s a tough question to answer, but I want to be fully transparent with all of you.

We are sick with emotion. Overwhelmed, disgusted, angry, scared, anxious, confused, exhausted, traumatized, and mentally drained.

And the toughest part about all of this is that these feelings are essentially on repeat because racial injustice has always been a part of our lives.  


This time it's different....this time it's people who we consider friends that are posting, commenting and sharing content amongst themselves- mocking, and ridiculing the black community.

Everyday is a new gut punch.

But not to worry, I am fully aware of who the real enemy is. I am very much awake. 


 And so I wonder...what has been their experiences...to allow this conclusion.

Because these are not bad people.

These are people who would give anyone their last without hesitation.

I work with them.

Our children play together.

So how are they ok with these memes...essentially mocking who I am?

And so we talk, and have the uncomfortable conversations...and I hear their experiences.

& then we both realize...they have no idea.
 Racism and white supremacy is so systematically & deeply engraved into this country that people have become numb to it.  


Racist jokes are normalized...people are made to feel indifferent about them.

This goes both ways.

We laugh it off and suppress it, otherwise it's uncomfortable.

How else is it so easy for society to understand why a child would shoot up a school after 4 months of bullying, but can't understand why an entire group of people would feel so much pain after 400 years of systematic oppression?
We are all a product of our surroundings, and our surroundings have been flawed....for generations.

This nation must first learn from the mistakes of our history if we are ever to heal and have peace.

 But first, we've got to have the uncomfortable conversations with each other.


If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out to me. Would love to hear from you. 

I want to have the conversation with you, hear your experience, and also share mine. 

Contact me here.


With love and peace, 

Marissa



Holistic Alternatives Upgraded My Live

Holistic Alternatives Upgraded My Live















When I was a first time mom, 5 years ago, my intuition was not settled with the answers I received in regards to my infant’s health. 


Some of you already know our story but for those of you who don’t, I’ll keep it short today, and you can always join our private Facebook group and catch the short video I made about the whole thing.


In a nut shell, we were told that our son was having an allergic reaction to something - no one could tell us what- and that he was to be treated for respiratory infections with antibiotics and steroids. 



I was on my way to pharmacy school at the time, and was very much aware of the side effects and symptoms of antibiotic overuse…. I refused to go that route.


Even though I was afraid and I felt lost…I was still determined to find a better way. 


Luckily for me, the pharmacist that I was working with was very much involved in learning about natural + holistic living. 

He knew his stuff and he was the catalyst that showed me it was ok to question everything the narrative and to listen to my mama’s intuition.


 He lead me to the right resources and to the right people so that I could learn more. 

It was because of him that I was prompted to reach out to a naturopathic doctor to get the ball rolling on alternative treatments for our son. 


I am in tears just typing this because I never got the chance to tell him thank you -he passed away in 2017 and I never had the chance to say goodbye. 

I never had the chance to say thank you. 


He will never know the positive impact that he had on me and my family’s life. 

He is a huge part of why I have the confidence and the courage to pursue living on my own terms.


Today, I am confident in my abilities to advocate for my family’s health and wellness instead of putting my full trust in pharmaceuticals and mainstream healthcare. 


And please hear the sincerity in my heart when I say that I truly do appreciate mainstream healthcare when necessary- but in our society, it's often the first and only thing we are given as an option. 


I am also saying that there are other options that have been proven to be safer and often times work better. 


You may feel different and that’s ok - maybe I’m not the girl for you. 

I believe we can disagree and still remain unified in the fact that we just want our family’s to be healthy.


At the end of the day, I am very thankful for modern day medicine when necessary but I will always opt for the ‘leaves of the trees first’. 


If any of this resonates with you, feel free to come say hi in Holistic Mama Collective where we talk about all kinds of natural ways to support a healthy lifestyle. 


We have a fun 3 day challenging launching mid June and we'd love to have you be part of it.
This challenge is designed to help jumpstart your holistic habits journey and offer support and encouragement along the way.


See you in the group.


xoxo, 

Marissa





How to Prepare Your Financial Wellness and Get on the Same Page

How many of you have ever heard of Dave Ramsey?


Do you follow his advice on financial peace?


I was introduced to him in college, and even though I didn’t follow his 7 baby steps then, I was drawn to his way of thinking in regards to being in debt. 


As a married couple, we were reintroduced to Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University class 2 years ago, and it really helped us get on the same page with our finances.


Finances had been a point of contention up until then. 


Today I want to share some encouragement with you.


I recently read a blog post by Dave Ramsey who said, 'Fifty percent of Americans have less than one month of their income saved for a rainy day (emergencies). 


Sure, that might not sound too positive. But guess what? We’re positive it’s going to rain!' 


With all of the chaos in the world today maybe you're not in that 50%… but some of you are. 


If you've lost your job and don't have emergency cash on hand, chances are you will have to fall back on credit cards to keep yourself afloat. 


And with nearly half of American households not saving any of their money, I'm sure this has been a very difficult time for many.


My heart goes out to those who were like me and were never taught how to have a healthy relationship with money… but it doesn’t have to stay that way. Let this be your wake up call.



Dave's Financial Peace University course is usually $100, but he just announced on his podcast that you can take the course for free. 


Just go to the following website.

www.daveramsey.com/store/hope & register to be able to take the full course. You'll have free access for 14 days so grab your spouse and binge watch this instead of Netflix. 


You’ll receive all nine lessons of Financial Peace and the EveryDollar Plus budgeting app—for free for 2 weeks! 


If you’ve been waiting for a sign to know if this proven plan works, here’s your sign. 


It worked for me and my family and we are still following Dave’s Steps as we teach them to our kids.


I know you’re sitting at home binge watching Netflix anyway. So why not take this time to watch from home and get started today!


When you’re in a crisis, facts are your friends. If you stay factual, you will see your way through this hard time. 


I'm rooting for you!  


Xoxo

Marissa



5 WAYS TO MAKE YOUR HOME A HEALING SANCTUARY

5 WAYS TO MAKE YOUR HOME A HEALING SANCTUARY













You know what I am thankful for? The gift of another day!... and if you’re reading this, obviously you’ve been blessed with that gift too! So let’s create hope, love and life where you live.


Things have not always been this easy for you - but today is a new day. 


Your home is your refuge. 


The place where you can truly let loose, and be yourself. 


The place where you get to cuddle up with your husband and your kids without the interference of the outside world. 


Your space of...
  • Safety
  • Peace
  • Creativity 


Truly, this is where the magic begins every morning, and ends each day. 


So…


Let’s chat about 5 Ways to Make Your Home a Healing Sanctuary


#1 EMBRACE YOUR ROLE AS GATEKEEPER


First of all...I don’t know who made up the rule that having boundaries was impolite. 


Boundaries are so important and serve as a point of safety and respect - not only to ourselves but to the people who interact with us.


You see, no matter what you've been led to believe in the past, I'm here to tell you --you get to call the shots in your own home. Period. Not your mom, your in-laws or sister so and so down the street - you and your husband. 


And I understand if your personality makes you feel like boundaries might make you 'mean' person - that's something you'll have to personally develop yourself. But until then, if you feel like you needed someone to grant permission and release you from those previous beliefs, I’m granting that permission to you right now! 


Your home is your castle, girlfriend. So why not make it a perfectly curated environment for you and your family to be happy.


#2 GIVE YOURSELF THE GIFT OF TIME


One of the biggest pieces of advice someone gave to me as a first time toddler mom was to get up before the kids do. Such a drastic change from ‘sleep when he sleeps’ rule with infants....but different seasons require different methods.


At first, I didn’t believe that something so seemingly small could create such monumental benefits - but it did in the most positive way. 


There is something about waking up during the quiet of the morning, and getting ready for the day. 


You are literally getting a head start on the day, instead of trying to play catch up amongst the chaos. 

Try it for one week, and let me know how it works for you. 

Use this time to enjoy a cup of coffee, reflect, practice prayerful mindfulness, pray, write in your journal, read a chapter or two from a book you love…anything that you can do FOR YOU and not for the family. This is your time. Enjoy. 


And when the littles do wake up, you are ready.


Happy, cup full, and fully present.



 

#3 ISN’T IT LOVELY?

Even if the rest of your home looks like jumanji, there’s something about having that one focal point of order that helps you to feel like you’re winning. 


Today, I want you to do think about one thing you can do to create a focal point of order. 


Maybe it's your bed -take the extra 4 minutes to make it up in the mornings. 


Do you have a plant corner? Turn it into a mini fairy garden. 


For me, it’s my office space. 


My husband and I both work from home - so it’s the one spot in our house that the boys aren’t allowed to play in... which means it stays kid free and easy is to clean. 

 

The dopamine boost from having just one focal point of tidiness to retreat to is totally worth it. 



 #4 SET THE TONE FOR THE DAY YOU WANT

Turn on some music and invest in a diffuser with high quality oils. 


Music has always been one of the best ways to lift the spirits and calm the mind. 


Add in a few essential oil blends to caress your limbic system, and you’ve just curated the perfect atmosphere to meet the needs of your day. 



 #5 ADJUST YOUR LIGHTING 

Create the ambiance you desire by adjusting the lighting in your home. 


Pull the curtains back and let the bright sunshine overflow the room, or allow the the sheers to deflect some of the light and create low, warm lighting. 


Either way, lights play a tremendous role in our feelings of comfort and safety - so don’t shy away and make it look just the way you like it!



Remember how I recommended high quality essential oils as part of your healing sanctuary? 


It’s important to know that not all essential oils are created equal. 


Most retailers are marketing ‘pure’ and ‘therapeutic’ grade oils....but I found out the hard way that just isn't true.


You may find an oil that smells nice, but that’s about all it will do.


When I started using essential oils 5 years ago, it was out of a medical necessity. 


I needed an oil to help support my child's body- not simply make my home smell nice.


Through my trial and error I’ve found a source that I can trust. 


It’s been an amazing 5 years, and this source has yet to disappoint. 


Interested in learning more? Contact me.


We can see if this would be a good fit for you, so you can start making your home the healing space you so desperately need.


xoxo
Marissa

 



Encouragement to Keep Going

Encouragement to Keep Going
Sometimes we get bogged down with our day to day lives-raising kids, working jobs, maintaining a marriage-that we sometimes wonder if our kids are even listening...
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