How to Live a Better Life | There's No Going Back to Ordinary

How to Live a Better Life | There's No Going Back to Ordinary
Your life was designed to be unique, compelling...dare I say, exceptional. 
And by taking action to achieve your OolaLife, it can be. 

It’s your time to pursue the greatness that’s within you. 

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Where to start to begin living your dream life | We did it, and you can, too!

Where to start to begin living your dream life | We did it, and you can, too!

It’s been a whole month since my husband resigned from his 9to5 and joined me at home to be his own boss as a full-time entrepreneur! He’s been so focused on this goal for the past 9 years and it’s finally here. 


I share this with you - my friends, coaching clients, and new friends who might have stumbled across this list somehow - I share this because if this can happen for us, it can most certainly happen for you. 


Here's how...
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HOW TO BREAK FREE FROM AN OVERWHELMING LIFE

HOW TO BREAK FREE FROM AN OVERWHELMING LIFE
I believe that our overwhelm is mostly self inflicting yet sometimes we take our Christian faith for granted by using it as a crutch for the way our life is when we should be taking responsibility for our actions and consequences.  When our lives are overwhelmed, do we take responsibility? No - we blame God or the enemy, but never ourselves. God is sovereign, yes. But God's sovereignty doesn't negate personal responsibility to choose to do our part. We each have free will. We each have free thoughts, and from those thoughts comes the ability to choose daily habits that form our lives. If we're not careful, those habits end up forming lives that are not pleasing to God, nor are they beneficial to us or anyone else for that matter. 
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WHO DO YOU HAVE ON YOUR TEAM? | HOW LIFE COACHING CAN HELP YOU

WHO DO YOU HAVE ON YOUR TEAM? | HOW LIFE COACHING CAN HELP YOU
You probably have a list of people you call on a regular basis: your sister, your mom, your best friends….or if you’re like me, your favorite take-out restaurant. 

But do you have a list of people you call to help you with your most important life goals?  When you're ready to take your goal achievements to the next level, keep reading to learn how.

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Daily Habits and Your One Thing | Habits of Highly Successful People

Daily Habits and Your One Thing | Habits of Highly Successful People
If you find your card is filled with tasks, errands and calls that don’t really move you closer to your biggest life goal, it’s probably time to reassess your priorities. This post gives you another strategy that helps you reframe your thinking when it comes to your daily habits for your goals. 
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One Thing You Can Do Now To Change Your Life Forever

One Thing You Can Do Now To Change Your Life Forever

If you could change one thing about your life today that would positively impact all your tomorrows, what would your one thing be? 

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WHAT IS THE MEANING OF CHRISTMAS & HOW YOU CAN ENJOY IT

WHAT IS THE MEANING OF CHRISTMAS & HOW YOU CAN ENJOY IT

2020 has given me complete permission to slow things down and be still...and I refuse to let that vibe go. 


Mama, as the heart beat of the home, may I encourage you to make it your daily goal to never get so busy that you miss out on the gifts that happen in the day to day.  


This Christmas hit differently without all the hustle and bustle stress attached to it. 


I whole heartedly showed up for my family today - by not baking all day, by not stressing about the decorations (or lack of), by not caring if the family pictures got sent or posted…

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HOW TO KEEP YOUR HOME WARM WITHOUT CENTRAL HEAT SICKNESS

HOW TO KEEP YOUR HOME WARM WITHOUT CENTRAL HEAT SICKNESS
We just had our first real cold front blow through on the MS Gulf Coast & I was so thrilled that we didn’t have to use our central heat to stay warm. 

Even though the temperatures dropped below 40 degrees, our home stayed comfortable and that makes my mama heart happy. 


We haven’t used our central heat in our home in over 5 years —yep!  

The reason why is because in the past, my entire family would always get sick with some type of upper respiratory infection when we turned it on. 

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WHAT IF EVERYTHING YOU'RE GOING THROUGH, IS EVERYTHING YOU PRAYED FOR?

WHAT IF EVERYTHING YOU'RE GOING THROUGH, IS EVERYTHING YOU PRAYED FOR?

There is so much power in simply knowing someone is going to show up for you, because they care for you; having accountability + the desire to finally start thriving in your life.  


My purpose in life is to show up for you because I believe in your thriving life for you, even if you can't see it right now.
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TURN YOUR CHAOS TO BALANCE IN 21 DAYS

TURN YOUR CHAOS TO BALANCE IN 21 DAYS
Something I've heard talked about all my life - but have rarely seen in action - is women & Titus 2 mentoring. 
& while I agree having a mentor is important, what's even better is having the ability within yourself to be your own head coach. 

Find out how.
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HOW TO GET THROUGH THE TRANSITION: WHERE YOU ARE IS NOT WHO YOU ARE

The  biggest issue I see in my younger, stay at home moms is that they feel like they're failing and I get it --I felt that way once too. You see, what I have learned since that moment is that I wasn't failing at anything - & neither are you. 
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WHATEVER YOUR GOAL WAS IN 2020, USE THIS MONTH TO WRAP IT UP

So before you grab the the boxes and the tape and the wrapping paper this year…before you start wrapping gifts, I want you to take a few moments to take inventory of all of your accomplishments over this past year. And then I want you to recommit to all of the things that you wish you’d done. 


Trust me when I say, now is not the time to ignore your wins, no matter how small you think they are - celebrate you! Taking inventory will help you to see where you are now - & help you determine how you’ll get to where you want to be.

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HOW TO EMBRACE & THRIVE IN THE CHANGES

First thing to remember is this… It’s in our nature to resist change. It really is. The uncertainty that comes with the change is often uncomfortable and we love our creature comforts of always feeling like we know what’s next.  


Our survival instincts perceive that a change as a threat.


Key words here are 'perceive' & ’threat'. I doesn’t matter if the threat is real or not, but essentially… our brains can’t see past what it can’t see. 

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6 Things to Ask Yourself When Starting A Home Business Opportunity

Working from home - & ultimately being your own boss - requires a certain level of discipline and purpose behind it. 


It’s not easy to keep showing up for yourself when experiencing a hard day…you've got to build a solid reason to keep you going. 


It’s easier to give up and quit when you don’t have one of who things….

  • One - either someone in your face telling you that you can’t quit (typical 9to 5) 

  • OR you’ve got a heart-centered reason why you refuse to quit.

I’ve got my hands on the latter and it feels so good to have business that not only provide an additional, steady stream of residual income, but also provides a way for me to give back and serve my audience!

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WHERE THERE IS RISK, THERE MUST BE A CHOICE

We've been trained to blindly follow the rules without question or examine.
 
I just found out that Yale University conducted a psychological study to determine the best arguments and messaging to coerce people into getting the COVID vaccine when available. 

Take a look at the games they are going to play with people’s minds to force compliance.
  • guilt
  • shame
  • anger 
  • humiliation 
  • embarrassment 
  • trust 
All as tactics to influence different messaging strategies.

From this data, they’ll craft the message to the general public. Do you understand what's happening? 
  • They are performing controlled experiments on optimal methods for controlling the population using psychological mind games and coercion. 
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HOLISTIC HEALTH IS BIBLICAL, & IT STARTS IN THE HOME

HOLISTIC HEALTH IS BIBLICAL, & IT STARTS IN THE HOME






Growing up, all I ever wanted to do was get a job, making good money, and travel the world helping people. Getting married and having children was never on the agenda.

The medical field appealed to me in that I knew I could do both as a traveling nurse or doctor.
Eventually, I decided on pharmacy school.

At age 19, I was blessed with a job at a local family owned and operated pharmacy as a technician.
They trained me on the job and treated me as one of their own kids.

I grew up in that pharmacy. From age 19 to 28 - they were a huge part of my life as I got engaged, got married, had my first and second baby- hindsight I know God placed me there for a specific purpose.

You see, they also taught me a great deal about the pharmaceutical industry that I would have never learned in school. I would have never learned any of it working for a big chain either.

While mainstream healthcare has it’s place of importance, they taught me that most of the people on medications in our country can easily remedy whatever their illnesses and disease are by way of nutrition and a healthy mindset.  

My pharmacist was an older gentlemen who had served in wars several years prior.

To know him, you would know that he always spoke his mind, no matter what you thought about him.

From day one, even in my interview, he would always tell me - ‘Make sure this is what you want to do. Because once you say yes, there’s no turning back.

I chocked it up to him just being a crazy old man, so I never gave it much thought.
I soon realized why he would say things like that.
To put a long story short, in 2015 my husband and I spent the first year of our sons life in hospitals as he was a very sick little boy and mainstream healthcare could not give us any relief or answers.

Thankfully, the Lord had already ordered my steps - and the pharmacist that I worked for was well-known in our community. He was able to connect me with a Naturopathic MD who introduced me to a whole new world of health and wellness.

It was then that I made the connection between our health and our lifestyles.
It was then that I learned that mainstream healthcare is not meant to heal us.

Something my pharmacist would always say was, ‘It’s that way by design, kiddo. If they healed us, they would go out of business & I wouldn’t have a job.’
To sum things up, our little boy got the help he needed through the help of that Naturopathic MD and I gained so much knowledge by working alongside people in the holistic health care community.

For the past 5 years, I’ve devoted time and money to learn as much as I can about natural health and wellness.
 It’s truly a remarkable thing to see how God has provided everything we need for our health, but we can’t see it.
After seeing everything that went on behind the scenes of mainstream pharmaceuticals and mainstream healthcare, The Lord placed a huge burden on my heart to discontinue my studies in this field.
I turned down my Ole Miss School of Pharmacy acceptance letter. It made absolutely no sense from the outside looking in, but I knew God had something else in store for me.

As people created in the image of God, it is our duty to remain faithful in every aspect of our Christian faith - body, mind, and spirit. (I Corinthians10:31)

In American culture, there exists a disconnect between Christians and holistic health.

Most people perceive food as originating at the grocery store; they see beans as coming from a can, and bananas as coming from the Chiquita lady in South America.

Very few people harvest their food and know what it’s like to garden.

We’ve grown accustomed to fast food and preventable lifestyle diseases are accepted as the norm.
We are used to people being sick and one of the reasons why is the business model of pharmaceutical industry - the industry I resigned and fled from 2.5 years ago.
Obesity is alarmingly at an all time high in our country.
In Mississippi, 25.4% of youth ages 10 to 17 have obesity, giving Mississippi a ranking of 1 out of 51.
Mental illness is at an all time high, and women all across nation also suffer from infertily and low sex drives.
But in Genesis 1, God creates humans and said “very good.”

Our culture has accepted poor health as the ‘norm’, when 99% of the time, it’s our own environment and choices that are part of the problem.
The American Cancer Society put out a study that showed us only 5% of cancers in the US are genetic. 5%!
That means the other 95% are caused by our environment and our lifestyle.

So what are we moms and wives doing about this?
We are the hearts of the home and many times, we are the ones who have the power to implement small changes for the good of our families.

I encourage you to be in prayer in this area.
  • Are we mentally and physically exhausted all the time, and not sure why?
  • Is our sex drive all but gone, and no one can explain why?
  • Are we feeding our families junk food and then expecting good health to magically appear?
  • Are our emotions stable or do we allow our food triggers to lead us?
  • Are we being a good example to our families as we are intentional about moving our bodies daily?
  • Are we allowing endocrine disrupting toxins into our home and our bodies - affecting our moods, our sex drives, our emotional stability?
  • What is our attitude towards those around us who are healthy and do choose to eat differently than most?

God created us as triune beings - our body, our spirit and and our mind are connected; if the body is undisciplined, so is the spirit.

I urge you to be thinking of all of this today. This is not a judgement call to anyone, but a call to action.
Moving forward, this will be part of the discussions here in Christian Wives and Moms.
As we continue to bring our whole selves into submission to the word of God, let’s not ignore our health.


1 Corinthians 10:31 - Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God. 
1 Corinthians 6:20 -For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's. 
Proverbs 3:9 -Honour the LORD with thy substance, and with the firstfruits of all thine increase: 
1 Samuel 2:30 -Wherefore the LORD God of Israel saith, I said indeed [that] thy house, and the house of thy father, should walk before me for ever: but now the LORD saith, Be it far from me; for them that honour me I will honour, and they that despise me shall be lightly esteemed. 
Deuteronomy 6:5 -And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might. 
2 Timothy 2:21- If a man therefore purge himself from these, he shall be a vessel unto honour, sanctified, and meet for the master's use, [and] prepared unto every good work. 
Romans 13:1-7- Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God. 
I Corinthians 3:16- Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and [that] the Spirit of God dwelleth in you?

For more on my personal holistic health journey, feel free to stop by Holistic Mama Collective.

xoxo
Marissa



HOW TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN WITHOUT LOSING THEIR HEARTS

HOW TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN WITHOUT LOSING THEIR HEARTS










One of my favorite things to do with my husband since becoming parents is attend marriage and family conferences together. Not only do marriage and family conferences make great date nights, we always walk away knowing more about ourselves, our marriage, and our parenting styles than when we first came. 


Both my husband and I come from a very old school way of raising children and it hasn’t been easy for us to arrive on the same page when it comes to discipline for our boys; but attending conference offers us the time and space to not only learn how to be better parents, but it’s a great way to get away for some alone time. 


At the last conference we attended, one of the speakers gave an opening message that I have since stuck on a post-it note to my office wall. ‘Connect before you correct.’ 


In a nut shell, It simply means that it’s important to keep the relationship with your children open and strong in order for the discipline and correction to be effective.

This really stood out to me because when I was growing up, most adults around me didn’t really know how to connect to children emotionally. Our obvious and basic needs were always met, but there was always a lack of emotional bonding and communicational skills that I didn’t fully understand until I myself was became a mom. 


And to preface this story even more, weeks leading up to this conference, we had been recently having an increasingly hard time with our then 4 year old son. 


I’ll dive deeper into what some of those hards days looked like specifically and what we did to help us understand him which inevitably helped up to build a stronger family bond. 


Take it from me,  I know what it looks and feels like to be in a family where adults don’t necessarily know how to love children in a way that children can understand. 


I know what it feels like to hear, ‘I don’t like you’, from adults in my life, based on the mistakes I had made as a child.


I know what it feels like to be told, ‘I will like you better when you learn to listen.’

Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages of Children says,Most parents love their children dearly and also want their children to feel loved, but very few know how to adequately convey that feeling.'


For now I will leave you with something important that I learned. 


One of the best way that I’ve found that work very well in developing and keeping a healthy relationship with your children is by finding out what your child’s specific love language is. 


Just like you would learn what your spouse’s love language is, you child needs to be loved in his own way too. 


And I’ll take it even further and say children also need to be loved according to their brain development level. We’ll talk more about that later so stay tuned for Friday’s Blog post so if this resonates with you, feel free to sign up for updates here.


Until then, it gives me so much joy to be able to connect with all of you and hear your unique stories. You can always contact me here or hop over to our private FB group where we talk about this and more. 


Til next time. 


Xoxo

Marissa





LEANING ON BORROWED FAITH_A TESTAMENT OF FRIENDSHIP

LEANING ON BORROWED FAITH_A TESTAMENT OF FRIENDSHIP









There are times in our lives when we feel like everything is falling apart.

Our back is against the wall and there is no way out. 


We do our best, we know when we are weak that he is strong, and we trust that the Lord is faithful.


But that doesn't make the trials go away. 

That doesn't make the fear disappear. 

And it definitely doesn't make it any easier. 


We choose to believe, we choose joy, we choose comfort in knowing that God is still in control....but some days it's hard to do any of those things. Some days it's hard to have faith in the things unseen. 


On those days it is SO nice to have friends in your life…kind of like Moses needed Aaron and Hur. 


Moses' strength grew weary, but he was blessed with Aaron and Hur who held up his arms, so that his hands were steady until the going down of the sun. -Exodus 17:12. 


Do you understand what that means? 

Moses had a job to do. 

God called him to lead their people out of bondage…but he couldn’t do it alone. 

We aren't meant to walk this road alone.


As a wife and mom, it’s super important to understand that we have got to surround ourselves with people who will uplift us when we are struggling….with people who are rooted in Christ so that when we are weak, they can remind us that we can lean on God, for he is strong. 


Think of it as borrowed faith.


Borrowed faith is necessary when we are exhausted, weary, tired of fighting and believing. Because sometimes it's way easier to say forget it, and throw in the towel. 


On those days, we really need others to put a stone under us so that we can sit.

We need people to hold onto our arms when we can't hold them up any longer. 

And maybe you are in a season where you don’t have any friend’s like that. (I’ve been there)


One thing that I know is true, that we attract the kind of people that we are ourselves. (let that sink in)


If we don’t have those kinds of friends in our circle, why don’t we? ‘

It might be time do some self inventory and ask some very real questions about who we are in Christ and what kind of fruit we are bearing as a testament of what he has done in us.



I know this is something you’ve heard before…but this time, this time you might just need to lean in and take action. 


And in the meantime, know that I am praying for you. If you don't have anyone that you can borrow faith from in your life, always trust that you can borrow mine. 


Because believe me when I say, I know how it is to feel completely alone in the midst of a storm.


Just know that you don't have to go through it alone so feel free to stop by the group and look me up https://www.facebook.com/groups/christianwivesandmoms/

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"Let the thunder be my comfort

Let the lightning be my guide

Let the waves that rise around me

Hold me gently through the night

For the winds that seem against me

Push me right into Your arms

Teach me how to sleep in the storm"

-Unspoken



xoxo
Marissa



HOW TO CREATE A HABIT OF MINDFULNESS AND MEDITATION

HOW TO CREATE A HABIT OF MINDFULNESS AND MEDITATION
MINDFULNESS & MEDITATION - Two of my most favorite yet almost always overlooked forms of holistic health.

For those of you who know me well, you know that two of my biggest passions are my faith in Jesus Christ and science. 

This may be why I get goosebumps whenever I hear the world of science confirming scripture in its research.

While the Bible speaks often about the power of the mind and our thoughts, there has been an unhealthy relationship between science and faith that hasn’t served the Christians community very well.

Science has connected the mind with transformation years ago. But the bitter (and unnecessary) rivalry between faith and science wouldn’t give credibility to its findings.

More and more, science is confirming Scripture, not contradicting it...our minds are powerful, and our thoughts shape who we are and will become.

So today, let’s address the one things that we have to work at daily to keep under control….our thinking.

There’s a verse in the bible, Proverbs 23:7 that says, For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.

We can make it ever more personal and say, what we think about ultimately becomes our reality.
Many times we worry about the mere ideas and what ifs and possibilities of how things can go wrong… and somewhere in our jumbled mess, our brains literally cannot tell fact from fiction.

But here’s the truth.
We are not victims of biology or circumstances. If you’ve chosen to believe otherwise, the previous verse may sounds like hogwash. But the amazing thing about our God is he is the same yesterday, today and forever.

Dr. Leaf said in her book, Switch on Your Brain
“When you think, you build thoughts, and these become physical substances in your brain.”

So friend I ask you, what are you thinking about today?

You were created in the image of God, full of love and mercy and grace.
What might happen if you started believing this?

There are many others verses in the Bible highlighting the power of our thoughts.
I encourage you to look them up and see for yourself.
But I hope you see the truth behind God’s timeless words.

The thoughts that you allow to play out in your mind will skew your perception of your reality and ultimately your legacy.

So, let’s start intentionally capturing those thoughts today.

I invite you to take 5 minutes and indulge in this mindful meditation practice.

Even if you’ve never mediated before, I encourage you to give it a try. 

Go into with an open mind, without judgement for yourself or previous ideas of what it is or anyone else's opinion of it, and just take inventory of how you feel before and after.

There’s no right or wrong answer here. This is just a new holistic habit for you to try.
5 minute meditation https://youtu.be/inpok4MKVLM

We've been chatting about this and more holistic habits inside our community here - if you'd like to stop in, come on in and say hello! I'd love to hear about your journey and how you are doing. 
Enjoy the rest of your day and see you in the group! 

xoxo
Marissa



AMERICA HAS A FUNNY RELATIONSHIP WITH ITS HISTORY...& WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT IT

AMERICA HAS A FUNNY RELATIONSHIP WITH ITS HISTORY...& WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT IT

America has a funny relationship with its history. 


For the last couple of weeks, I have been asked how we’re feeling. 


It’s a tough question to answer, but I want to be fully transparent with all of you.

We are sick with emotion. Overwhelmed, disgusted, angry, scared, anxious, confused, exhausted, traumatized, and mentally drained.

And the toughest part about all of this is that these feelings are essentially on repeat because racial injustice has always been a part of our lives.  


This time it's different....this time it's people who we consider friends that are posting, commenting and sharing content amongst themselves- mocking, and ridiculing the black community.

Everyday is a new gut punch.

But not to worry, I am fully aware of who the real enemy is. I am very much awake. 


 And so I wonder...what has been their experiences...to allow this conclusion.

Because these are not bad people.

These are people who would give anyone their last without hesitation.

I work with them.

Our children play together.

So how are they ok with these memes...essentially mocking who I am?

And so we talk, and have the uncomfortable conversations...and I hear their experiences.

& then we both realize...they have no idea.
 Racism and white supremacy is so systematically & deeply engraved into this country that people have become numb to it.  


Racist jokes are normalized...people are made to feel indifferent about them.

This goes both ways.

We laugh it off and suppress it, otherwise it's uncomfortable.

How else is it so easy for society to understand why a child would shoot up a school after 4 months of bullying, but can't understand why an entire group of people would feel so much pain after 400 years of systematic oppression?
We are all a product of our surroundings, and our surroundings have been flawed....for generations.

This nation must first learn from the mistakes of our history if we are ever to heal and have peace.

 But first, we've got to have the uncomfortable conversations with each other.


If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out to me. Would love to hear from you. 

I want to have the conversation with you, hear your experience, and also share mine. 

Contact me here.


With love and peace, 

Marissa



 
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